Let's Talk About Sex

Let's Talk About Sex

Sex is a common concern. It’s affecting so many of us on a much broader scale, both inside and outside the bedroom. Yet most of us don’t talk about it the way we should. We are embarrassed to get real about sex and the things that really bother us, even with our spouses. Sex is something that we need to talk about, especially as Christians and believers. We talk about everything in the church but a lot of times, we don't talk enough about sex, and when we do talk about it, it's usually a negative connotation around it. We need to get to a place where we are comfortable in our conversations when it comes to sex. God created sex for pleasure and for us to enjoy. We have to start taking the narrative of sex back and teaching positivity outside our bedrooms. This will help us and our children to be free and have healthy and productive relationships. 
Join the conversation with Dana Che as she shares her experiences, more about sex, and how you can get comfortable and confident having a conversation around sex.  Dana Che is a marriage and relationship coach and the Real Relationship Talk podcast host. She is also an online pastor in a multisite and multiethnic church. Her mission is to help lead people into more fruitful relationships with the Lord and each other. She's married to her husband Shaun of 23 years, and they have 4 children together and live in Virginia Beach.

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During this episode, you will learn about;
[00:24] Episode intro and today's focus
[05:13] What inspired today's topic, Let’s talk about sex
[09:41] A bit about our guest today, Dana Che
[11:58] Dana's experience growing up and how it shaped her perspective on sex   
[15:28] How our parent’s background affects their openness to sex conversations 
[20:14] What Dana learned from the church and how it affected her as a teenager  
[27:07] Dana’s perspective about sex and why it took so long to change even after getting Married
[33:57] What Dana has done differently with her children in sex conversations
[35:45] Dana’s perspective on how the church’s doing in providing resources to singles and couples regarding sex 
[38:14] What Dana’s church is doing in providing resources to support sexual intimacy 
[41:51] What the church can do better in providing space for sex and sexuality 
[44:50] Dana’s message to her 14 year old self and the message she needed to hear 
[48:36] Dana’s advice to new wives who feel ashamed and uncomfortable in the bedroom 
[55:31] Dana’s advice to couples who want to spice it up and enjoy their sexual intimacy 
[01:03:37] Does Dana still have difficulties talking about sex with the church? Find out
[01:04:13] How to talk to your children about sex without them wanting to try it out 
[01:12:44] How important it is for the church to disciple people in the area of sexuality 
[01:12:44] The best way to connect to Dana and purchase her workbook, Love Is    
[01:17:34] Ending the show and call to action 

Notable Quotes 
God created sex, and it’s a beautiful thing.

When you have had that message planted in you for so many years, it will not go away because you have a ring on your finger.

Shame is a very powerful thing, and the enemy is always trying to keep us in it.

Be open and honest with your spouse about what you don’t want, what pleases you, and what you desire. 

If you have unmet expectations, this leads to disappointments, and disappointment over time leads to bitterness and resentment. 

RESOURCES MENTIONED 
Love Is Workbook: https://realrelationshiptalk.com/love-is/

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Dana Che
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